Continued 3. Lets pass time once carried out the rupture appears mourning for the loss of a loved one. At Sam Lesser Upenn you will find additional information. Every person faces in different ways: some remake her life right away and others maintain the duel for months, even years, without actually solving the problem. This phase of overcoming of rupture, appear in many conflicting and found, feelings which makes difficult to opt for a coherent attitude. Sometimes we’d return with our former partner because we miss him; other times gives us rage that has made us and we want to kill him. When we overcome this indecision, there are people who decide to try despite the lived experience because they believe that compensates for them and that your life is much more satisfactory with your partner again.

Bearing this in mind, you do not call or have contact with your former partner during a reasonable time. This time will help you to reflect on the problems you’ve had and realize if you really want to return with her. It is important to let go awhile, too, so the other person exceed his resentment and heal their wounds. Avoid searching, desperately, to your former partner. If you’re too insistent might feel harassed and lose all possibility of recovering the relationship.

It expresses your interest in return but leaves freedom. 4 Know yourself / or remember that your former partner fell in love you for the person you are, but over time you can be changed by various circumstances of life. You need to be realistic: If you expect things that you and your former partner you are not qualified to give, you’ll be under an impossible to withstand pressure. Therefore, at all times know yourself / don’t try to be the person that you are not or will not work. Since then, it avoids the mistakes of the past, but it still retains your identity. If your partner again with you, you’ll be safe / or making it by what you are and not what you would like to you to be. 5 Propose an encounter if separation has been traumatic, you’ll need a time of preparation before you face your partner and propose a change. First, you will have to strengthen security in yourself / or, remember that might’ve been you the responsible () for the break, or the (el) that has touched you assume that role, whereupon, approaches towards your former partner will be full of recriminations, accusations, criticisms, etc. do are prepared / or emotionally to do this? Will you defend your interests without going into that game of victim or accuser? Emotionally you have to be strong, so that the other person trust you. Then, when you see that you’re ready / or for re – you meet your ex considers if she is ready to talk about it. Remember that the times are not the same for both. It is better to wait for the perfect time, to talk about the relationship, hurry up and get a negative response. The ideal is to propose a meeting alone, choosing a neutral place to have a relaxed climate generate. Continues in 3rd part y team if you have any query on the subject click here original author and source of the article