Talk about the life partner is a very complicated business. Unfortunately there are no magic recipes that help us to solve all the problems of couple from a recipe. The human experience is different because all perceive reality in a different way. The part of the reality that I perceive is the truth of what I understand, but also the point that my partner observes, is as important as the mio. Thats the fundamental premise, we are couple and we see life and problems in a different way, therefore, I am going to refer me to ten essential benchmarks for which in my opinion, could help count with a couple of quality: 1. do not criticize your partner: your you chose it for something, you’re with her, critique always leads to major conflicts. You better try to know what is the problem between the two and tries to give a solution, but above all, listen to what your partner has to say.
2. Do not think that your vision is the only: the perception of life, problems, possible solutions is unique for each person, therefore, keep yourself open to understand What is the vision of your partner and better reconciles between your perspective and your average Orange to reach a solution satisfactory to the two. 3 Your relationship focused on what your partner Yes gives and not in what can give you no: we are so accustomed to talking about those aspects that we dislike our partner that we lose sight that we do have with her. We get angry because you are late, but we don’t realize that there is always that it is solidarity, family life, likes what is me, pay attention to what your partner Yes brings to the relationship. You no more distracted in the details of what you need, better devoted your efforts to take into account their positive giving the relationship.
4. The assertive communication: say what you feel at the right time. Do not wait for the pile of invoices to accumulate to that in a moment of anger, drop you all your resentment and anger so you annoying. Both what you like and what not, gives solution at the moment. It is very nice that you say: I loved your detail and also what we don’t like in the here and now, to not walk carrying a sack of misgivings that we estallamos at the first provocation. 5. A life in common project: establish objectives of couple, of family, of individual life is very important. Combine our personal life with the partner project; otherwise, always falls in a vacuum, in daily life, in as usual. Keep objectives together and their relationship will surely be of higher quality, without losing sight of individual goals. It seems crazy, but in my experience that is an alternative to form pairs of quality. Of course, that your experience has the last word. In my book How to regain the trust in love: wounds and scars in the couple relationship, speak of the importance of personal life project and in common. If you are interested visit our site and you can also subscribe to the newsletter and you have the ten commandments of life as a couple.